
From the
NurtureShock website, "The central premise of this book is that many of modern society’s strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring – because key twists in the science have been overlooked." This book is not a parenting manual, but the authors, Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, want to get parents to rethink their assumptions about different parenting "givens".
Chapters of the book include:
The Inverse Power of Praise
The Lost Hour
Why White Parents Don't Talk About Race
Why Kids Lie
The Search for Intelligent Life in Kindergarten
The Sibling Effect
The Science of Teen Rebellion
Can Self-Control Be Taught?
Plays Well With Others
Why Hannah Talks and Alyssa Doesn't
This book is a pretty good read. The statistics presented are easy to understand, and the book doesn't drone on and on with statistics but also uses dialogue and real-life examples of parenting situations to emphasize the authors' ideas.
The chapter "The Lost Hour" was my absolute favorite and I agree with it wholeheartedly. It does seem that overscheduling kids makes them work harder into the night without any downtime, and school (especially high school) starts so early these days. So, it makes sense that there would be less time for sleep and less time for the brain to process and recover from the day.
I did not agree 100% with every point in this book, especially the chapter on why telling your child she's smart is a bad thing. I believe life is a self-fulfilling prophecy, so shouldn't you tell all kids they are smart? I do not think that telling them they are smart is the end of the story. Discipline and effort are essential to the learning process.
NurtureShock offers food for thought, and if you are a parent striving for excellence in your kids and in your parenting, this book is worth picking up.
I have one copy (hardback) to give away. Leave one comment below and tell me which chapter of the book has piqued your interest. Entries will be accepted until midnight September 10, 2009. Bonus entry: Follow me on Twitter! (Leave a separate comment.)
(Disclaimer: I was not paid for this post. I was provided one advance copy of the book to review and one copy to give away. These are my own opinions, and I was not solicited for a positive or negative review.)